For years, I’ve been thinking that there’s no way of loving yourself if you want to change parts of it. You either love yourself fiercely or you don’t. Either you scream it out into the world what a goddamn queen you are or you bury yourself at home, hating every inch of your own skin. But that’s just utter crap. Now listen babes, you can absolutely love your body and still want to change it.
YES, you can love your body and still want to change it
I have come to the realization that this dichotomy between loving your body and wanting to change it is something that I have entirely made up in my mind through what I’ve heard people say in public. Sure, I can love my body and still want to change certain parts of it. I am allowed to wish for bigger breasts and still embrace the way my body is shaped in every way possible. I can dream about and research how much lip fillers cost – but that doesn’t mean I’m not happy with the way my face looks like now.
For years I’ve felt like an utter fraud for emphasizing body positivity and loving yourself when in reality I do have parts that I feel not so good about. That’s absolutely okay, though. I do not need to love every inch of my body. Do not need to embrace every inch of it.
All in all, I’m in a really good place with my body right now. In fact, my relationship with my body is now better than it has ever been before. I slowly began to love the shape of my figure, the curves I have and the flaws that mark it. But still, there are things that I would very much so like to change about myself.
For some reason, we Austrians are really uptight about cosmetic surgery. Behold she got a boob job? Did you see her new lips? She’s so cheap!! Remember that girl from 3rd grade? Well, she had her nose surgically altered. She must be so insecure.
But really, what utter nonsense is that? If I want to get my boobs done, that is no one’s business but my own. I, for example, really like mine – they’re shaped really nicely. If I’d have the money, however, I’m 100% sure I’d invest in bigger ones. For no one but myself. Because I think there’s nothing wrong with wanting to get the best out of the blank canvas that your body is.
Speaking of canvas: the same applies for tattoos. I love them! Always have, always will. I think it’s everyone’s own business to decide what they want to do with their bodies and how they want to alter it. Be that with a rough fitness routine so your abs are visible, lip fillers or covering your body in tattoos. You might think that’s stupid – okay good for you Sally. But stop judging others for pursuing the best version of themselves.
Are you a fraud if you say you love yourself but still want to get lip fillers?
No, you’re not. Also, I think it doesn’t mean you’re superficial if you want to change your appearance. Sure, honey, you’re bloody gorgeous the way you look like. But if you feel like getting a new nose – then, by all means, go ahead and treat yourself. In the end, the only person that needs to be happy with the way you look like is you yourself.
Last weekend I met a tremendously gorgeous woman, with obvious lip fillers and amazing breasts. While I marvelled at her beauty, I uttered how I’d want to invest my money in something similar as well if I’d have it. Everyone else in the crowd suddenly looked at me in horror. But honestly, WHAT’S SO WRONG ABOUT THAT?
Hear me out. I love my body. I really do. I like the uniqueness of it. The way it carries me through the world. I adore every tiny bit of skin that covers my flesh and bones. That does not mean I do not want to work towards becoming the best version of myself. And to me, that has nothing to do with lying to yourself or being a fraud about body-positivity.
Loving yourself is all about finding what feels good.
And if I want to get lips like Kylie Jenner and feel good about it – then hell you should definitely not judge me for it. Because in the end, all we want to be is happy. And if that makes me happy, so be it. That doesn’t mean I didn’t love the old me, though.
And while I don’t have the boobs I dream of, I’m embracing what I have with gorgeous lingerie, cute little lace bras and the power of contouring. Speaking of lingerie, how gorgeous are these lace bra’s featured in the pictures? My friend Lisa and I have kindly been gifted a selection of bra’s and panties by the lovely Esther from LeahZoe, an Austrian online store for all things sexy underwear and lingerie. I had already worked with her a couple of weeks back and have been stocking up with beautiful things from her shop ever since.
I think it’s no secret that I absolutely love all things lace-y and sexy underwear. Nothing makes me feel more confident and powerful than wearing a really sexy bra underneath a big jumper or dressing up a boring white shirt with a lace bralette. And it’s been only when I stopped wearing these boring old H&M bras that I started to embrace my body and feel sexy in jogging pants too. It doesn’t matter whether someone sees these little pieces of lace, it’s all about myself and feeling good in my own skin.
++ WHAT I’M WEARING: Serendipity Bra and Caton Bra and Sheer Bottoms via LeahZoe.
What do you think about wanting to change your appearance? Are you pro sugery or anti? Have you had anything done yet? I’m really curious about this so let’s chat in the comments below :)