Wikipedia says, “the comfort zone is a psychological state in which a person feels familiar, at ease, in control and experiences low anxiety and stress.” Sounds good, eh? Well it is. The comfort zone is cosy and comfortable. You do not have to put a lot of effort into feeling well and once you found it, it literally takes zero effort to maintain. You just gotta stay in there and enjoy it working its magic. Problem is: life almost always happens outside your beloved comfort zone. And that’s exactly what I’m struggling with at the moment.
My comfort zone feels good. It is warm and makes me feel at ease. I really admire people who speak their minds, follow their dreams and step up for what they believe in. But am I also like that? Not so much. Because I’m afraid to step outside my comfort zone. Quite often people misjudge me and interpret my characteristics as me not being interested in them – in truth I just rarely trust people and am too shy and too anxious about failure that I fail to bond with new people.
That’s not too bad because I am not alone, am I? Sometimes I feel like such a weirdo for not being as outgoing as others. I envy people who have no problem whatsoever to speak to strangers, engage in interesting conversations and instantly form new friendships. I am happy! I have never been happier than I am now. However, I also want change. I wanna step outside my comfort zone and engage with new people. I wanna make new friends and acquaintances. I am me, and that also includes being awkward, shy and a bit of a loner. I never had a problem with that because the friends I do have I can always count on. They support me no matter what and are literally the best people ever! But I also want to try new things while I am young. I don’t want to sit on the couch and read every evening – even though I love doing that more than anything else! I want to go out. Party all night. I am still young!
In the blogging world connecting with other people is extremely important and honestly, to me this is the biggest problem. As a blogger I often get invited to amazing events. However, in the past I often said no due to being anxious about going there all on my own. Like, honestly… I’m too shy to ask someone for help when I can’t find an item at the store, do you really expect me to go to a huge event all by myself? Who am I even going to speak too? That’s such a dumb way of thinking and I really wanna work on me becoming more outgoing and less socially awkward.
And I’m going to step outside this stupid comfort zone even though I am afraid of being neglected and anxious about what it might bring. It’s not that I want to turn around my life – I just want to bold, interesting and engaged. That’s why I promised myself that I am going to leave my comfort zone every once in a while. Or at least that’s what I plan on doing in the near future…
Tomorrow, next week, next month or maybe next year?!
What do you think about the comfort zone? Are you as fond of it as I am or are you more bold and leave it every once in a while?