Why we should stop judging others in 2018

Why we should stop judging others in 2018

If there is one thing I have learned in 2017 it is that one shall never judge other people’s actions if you only know a small fraction of their lives. There hardly ever is a simple solution and answer to what they are going through and what you are seeing might deviate in so many ways from what actually is going on.

Say you hear your distant friend Eve is dating a new guy and he’s the ex-boyfriend of her best friend or something. Isn’t it easy to judge? Oh, what a bad girl she has to be. Or your colleague falls in love with her best friend. Bless her, she’s about to sin. Influencer X starts postings pictures in a bra. She must be desperate for attention because that guy dumped her two months ago.

In the end, we never know the full story. Period!

What you see is only ever a fraction of the entire story. You might think you know someone because they share their lives on social media. But in reality, you don’t. You don’t see them crying at night, helplessly searching for a friend amidst the superficial and shallow depths of the society they placed themselves in. You do not hear about the sick mother that needs to be cared for or the heartache that followed after falling in love with the wrong person.

So can we make 2018 the year of trying to quit judging others?

I know it is hard. Because we love to gossip, don’t we? There’s nothing as thrilling as to hearing who is about to go down on whom and talking shit to your girlfriends about Emma from HR gaining a ton of weight. We see a new colleague meet another colleague after work and immediately spread the rumor about them dating. Friendship is not an option. It never is. But that puts anyone in a difficult situation and judging others never makes your own life better, does it?

It’s never as black and white as it appears to be for the eyes of the spectator. The human mind is twisted and layered, only showing the bits and pieces we want others to see.

 

Here’s my plead

Can we not focus on ourselves in 2018? Can we stop creating fake accounts on Instagram to take down others in order to feel better about ourselves? Can we work on our own relationships and goals, rather than trying to tear others down for pursuing what sets their soul on fire?

Can we all just be a little nicer to each other in 2018?

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23 Comments

  1. 16th January 2018 / 9:57 pm

    Love this post!
    Sehr schön geschrieben Kerstin
    und so so wichtig 🙏!
    Liebe Grüße
    Marcel

    • 16th January 2018 / 9:59 pm

      Tausend Dank Marcel x

  2. 16th January 2018 / 10:43 pm

    I really want this year to be when everyone (including myself) gets less judgemental. It’s SO easy to assume stuff about people, and forcing ourselves to always think of the ‘bigger picture’ is hard but SO important

    Steph – http://www.nourishmeblog.co.uk

  3. 17th January 2018 / 8:22 am

    amen amen amen amen amen.

    loved this post. such a strong message and so damn true, you don’t know people so what gives you the right to judge!?

    katie. xx lacoconoire.com

  4. 17th January 2018 / 8:56 am

    I love the post. I really really do. I promised myself to stop judging others in 2018 (and for good). I really try hard to get rid of this habit but sometimes I catch myself on thinking and creating some ugly judgements in my head – I feel so ashamed but I think it’s the part of our lives or our culture. I try to monitor my thoughts and reactions and instantly correct the wrong thinking processes. Thank you for this important post!

    • 17th January 2018 / 11:53 am

      Same here… it‘s not always easy. But at least we can try x

  5. 17th January 2018 / 11:10 am

    Very true! Great post.

    • 17th January 2018 / 11:53 am

      Thanks a million x

  6. 17th January 2018 / 6:06 pm

    Ein sehr wichtiger und schöner Beitrag. Natürlich lieben wir Gossip, davon kann sich wohl niemand freisprechen. Aber es gibt solchen und solchen und über andere zu urteilen fällt natürlich sehr leicht, wenn man nur ein Bruchteil der Person über Social Media zu kennen scheint. Wir alle haben unser Päckchen zu tragen, der eine ein größeres als der andere, aber davon bekommen wir nichts mit. Ich finde deinen Ansatz toll und werde dieses Credo für mich mit übernehmen! Danke <3
    Liebst Kathi
    http://www.meetthehappygirl.com

    • 21st January 2018 / 6:39 pm

      Dem kann ich absolut nichts mehr hinzufügen. Danke für deine lieben Worte Kathi x

  7. 19th January 2018 / 7:23 pm

    I feel like I’ve done pretty well to get to where I am now in the sense that I don’t judge people too much, it’s then just worry about other judging you! I find that quite hard to get over. Love the photos in this post btw!

    Leah x
    http://www.leahmarriott.co.uk

    • 21st January 2018 / 6:38 pm

      thank you so so much leah x

  8. 25th January 2018 / 6:15 pm

    LOVE this post! I agree, we all need to be less judgemental. Sometimes I find myself doing it also, then step back and slap myself internally for being judgemental. I think is more people focused on themselves, there would be less judgement circulating around a range of social media platforms, workplaces, friend groups etc.

    Much love xo
    Jaydee

    justmejaydee.blogspot.co.uk

    • 27th January 2018 / 9:33 am

      Thank you so much for your honest comment Jaydee x

  9. 30th January 2018 / 6:16 pm

    Great post! We all need to be reminded of that because it’s so easy to judge people without even knowing their full story.

    • 4th February 2018 / 8:07 pm

      Exactly! Thanks for stopping by x

  10. Steffi
    2nd February 2018 / 9:51 am

    Sehr schöne Worte!
    Ich versuche das ganze Verurteilen schon seit letztem Jahr etwas von mir fernzuhalten. Manchmal klappt es schlechter, manchmal besser. Es ist wirklich traurig wie engstirnig man selbst oft ist und sich viel zu schnell mitreißen lässt.
    Dieses Sprichwort passt ganz gut zu diesem Thema: “Nichts verbindet zwei Menschen so sehr, wie die Abneigung gegen einen Dritten.”

    • 4th February 2018 / 8:06 pm

      Ich liebe das Sprichwort. Danke fürs teilen x

  11. Feli
    8th February 2018 / 12:49 pm

    Preach, girl! 1000000% true. Ich kann gar nicht mehr sagen, ich finds soo toll, dass du das ansprichst und auch die Art! Bitte mehr davon. Und vielleicht die Leute einfach fragen ob alles in Ordnung ist, besser kennen lernen anstatt nur die Oberfläche zu sehn! Danke für diesen Post Kerstin!

    Alles Liebe, Feli

    • 12th February 2018 / 9:21 pm

      Oh vielen lieben Dank für dein tolles Feedback Feli x

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