Life is about good coffee and great friends. Don’t we all just love hanging out with our friends, spending days and nights with our loved ones. Times filled with laughter, good conversations, memorable experiences and adventure. Don’t we all just love meeting new people, constantly being surrounded by others so we don’t have to think about our own problems all too much. Going out. Having fun. Living life to the fullest.
Well good for you because I don’t. I’d rather be on my own! Don’t get me wrong – I adore my friends, love to meet new people and get inspired through creative discussions and talks. However, at the end of the day I still prefer being on my own, maybe escaping into another world through books and drinking coffee. The coffee I’d always say yes to, the people not so much.
Being in huge crowds exhausts me.
Not physically but mentally. Others get inspired by being surrounded by people for a longer time. But me? It completely drains me. Call me weirdo – call me loner. I don’t care.
I once had a very extrovert friend (true story!) who loved being surrounded by others. She always had a huge support system – literally dozens of “best friends”. She never spent time home alone. She rarely even slept alone. And she jumped from one relationship into another because whenever a guy dumped her she couldn’t bear the thought of being alone for too long. She always needed people in her life. Maybe to guard her from her own demons. She probably still does.
Me? Not so much.
I do enjoy spending time with my close friends (a rather compact group of awesome people). I do love living with the mister and traveling with him. People inspire me. But networking still isn’t easy for me. I’m crappy at small talk. I’m an introvert. And I’d rather be alone. Thank god (or rather whoever invented it) for the internet – you gave me a way to be social without having to interact with others.
We live in a world where being an extrovert is desired and being an introvert equals being a loner. But is that really such a bad thing? I’m the most creative when I’m on my own. I can’t work in groups. Just can’t do it. It suffocates me. (WHY do we even force students to work in groups? That’s horrible and traumatising!) Whenever I attend to events I’m happy to be here. Grateful for the opportunities. But in the end I’m also always super happy about being back home, having time to breath. And drink my coffee/wine and read books, of course. Because I’m a lone wolf and you’re the extrovert sheep. And I’m gonna get you in the end. (Just kidding – I’m way too lazy for that!)
What about you? Do you also like being alone? Or are you more of an extrovert person? Let’s talk about being a lone wolf in the comments below :)
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