My Body, My Rules – Dressing For Myself

My Body, My Rules – Dressing For Myself

I think you could easily refer to the past few months in my life as some sort of path towards finding my true self. A lot of things changed and I’ve come to terms with me, myself and I, as a unique person, fully independent from everyone but myself. This has ultimately also led to a deeper understanding of my body and a newfound self-confidence that is so inherently different to everything I ever felt before. And that can also be seen in my choice of outfits lately. For example, have I fallen in love with beautiful and feminine dresses – something that would have been unimaginable for me about a year ago.

My Path Towards Genuine Self-Love

If you’ve been following Miss Getaway for quite a while, you might recall a number of different posts dealing with self-love and body confidence. However, only recently have I realized that even though I always claimed to be oh-so-confident, I never really was. Everything I wore and did was somehow rooted in what others expected of me.

For example, did I never wear dresses like this gorgeous number from AboutYou because I was paralyzed with fear of what other people might think about me. Now, to some this might sound utterly stupid because there are women who never experienced the struggle that I had with this particular style of fashion.

Recently, a friend of mine asked me what my favourite piece of clothing was. Without the bat of an eye, I blurted out “dresses” and watched her confusion, as I believe she never even saw me wearing one. The thing is. I love dresses. Always have. I think they look absolutely gorgeous and I always wished to be able to pull them off too.

The Power of a Good Dress

I’ve had a quite a bit of bad experiences with men (and women) in the past when it comes to my body being (over-) sexualized. I’ve had girls make fun of me in high school because I had an ass and boobs. I had strangers call me slutty because I dared to show some cleavage when going out. And I’ve had men reducing me to my body only. And I think that’s why, at some point in growing up, I decided to refrain from wearing feminine clothing and fled into a more sporty and casual style.

I’ve always loved fashion and adored women that could pull of a nice dress. There were lots of instances when I tried on a dress in a shop and would think “damn girl, you look amazing”, but didn’t buy them in order to adhere to that picture of myself that I though I had to convey to others.

Dressing For Myself

 

It’s my body and I am the one in charge of how to dress it. I feel amazing wearing feminine dresses that enhance my curves. I love pairing them with old-fashioned pieces like these slippers from Aldo and dress them either up for the night or down for the day. And I think that is key.

Fashion should be fun and not feel restrictive.

And while we’re at it. Can we just take a moment to appreciate how bloody gorgeous these pictures turned out. When I was looking through them I honestly couldn’t believe that’s actually me. Love this dress – love those pictures!

WHAT I’M WEARING:

JacketEdited via AboutYou* (on sale!), Dress – OML via About You* (sold out), ShoesAldo via About You*, Bag – SassyClassy, Earrings, Ring – Pandora, Necklace – NA-KD;

Have you had a similar experience before? What do you think about judging other people by what they are wearing? And what do you think about my new favourite look?

 

*PR Samples

** Pictures by the incredibly talented Lisa from MyCafeAuLait

35 Comments

  1. 19th June 2017 / 8:07 am

    Hey you.
    Oh I know that feeling. ich wurde früher wegen meiner “ach so schrecklichen Firgur” sogar gemobbt, was bis heute Narben hinterlassen hat. Aber wundervoll, dass du deinen Weg gefunden hast und dich wohl fühlst.

    Wirklich ein wunderschönes Kleid. Wow :)

    Wishes, Kat

    • 19th June 2017 / 7:42 pm

      Oh gott du arme – sowas ist wirklich schlimm. Ich hoffe es geht dir jetzt besser und du findest den Weg zu dir <3

  2. 19th June 2017 / 10:35 am

    Meine liebe Kerstin,
    ich habe mich schon oft gefragt, warum ich dich noch nie in einem Kleid gesehen habe, da du sie bei mir zum Beispiel immer lobst und ich gemerkt habe, dass du Kleider eigentlich total gerne magst – nur halt nicht für dich… SO ein QUATSCH! Dieses Kleid steht dir sooooo unfassbar gut! Du schaust wundervoll aus und ich möchte, dass du solche Sachen viel viel öfters trägst. Keiner sollte sich vorschreiben lassen was er zu tragen hat, nur damit er in ein “Klischee” passt. Und ganz ehrlich wenn einige deiner Freunde, deinen neuen Stil, dein neues Ich nicht verstehen und unterstützen, dann sind es keine wahren und echte Freunde. Du hast eine wundervolle Figur und darfst diese auch gerne in femininer Kleidung zeigen!
    Hab eine tolle Woche Süße*
    Liebst Kathi
    http://www.meetthehappygirl.com

    • 19th June 2017 / 7:36 pm

      Oh danke für dein super liebes Kommentar Kathi. Ja ich liebe Kleider eigentlich aber hab mich da komischerweise irgenwie einfach nie drüber getraut – das wird jetzt geändert haha x

  3. 19th June 2017 / 11:26 am

    Das Kleid ist ja traumhaft schön! Blumenprints mag ich auch sehr gerne und hatte neulich ein ähnliches Kleid an :-*

    viele liebe Grüße
    Melanie / http://www.goldzeitblog.de

    • 19th June 2017 / 7:35 pm

      Blumenprints sind einfach ideal für den Sommer. Danke Melanie x

  4. 19th June 2017 / 12:56 pm

    Dieses Kleid steht dir einfach wunderbar – und die Bilder sind wirklich super schön geworden. Du strahlst Selbstvertrauen aus und man merkt, dass du dich in diesem Kleid wohlfühlst. Einfach inspirierend!

    Alles Liebe, Sonja
    http://www.littlewhitepages.wordpress.com

    • 19th June 2017 / 7:35 pm

      Oh vielen lieben Dank für deine wundervollen Worte Sonja x

  5. Melody
    19th June 2017 / 3:02 pm

    This is exactly what I’ve been through, too. Though I haven’t reached your level of confidence yet, I’m hoping that one day I’ll come to fully accept my body.

    Thank you for this article and for being so inspiring!
    Also, that dress is so pretty and you look awesome in it!

    • 19th June 2017 / 7:34 pm

      Thank you so much Melody. That really means the world to me x

  6. 19th June 2017 / 7:10 pm

    I had the same thoughts as you which also made me go for a more casual style but I’ve really been embracing my style more this summer by purchasing more dresses! You look amazing in yours

    Leah x

    http://www.leahmarriott.co.uk

    • 19th June 2017 / 7:34 pm

      That is such a good plan for summer. Cannot wait to see you in dresses on your blog babe x

  7. 19th June 2017 / 8:17 pm

    Love the thoughts! Love the dress! Love the look!

  8. 20th June 2017 / 2:09 am

    Thank you for a really refreshing take on fashion and for opening up about self-confidence. It takes courage to do that and as a fellow woman that struggles with self-confidence, I appreciate this post a lot because it’s nice to know you’re not alone.

    I realized recently too that I restrict myself with what I choose to wear and not wear because of a lot of deep-rooted beliefs. I also had a lot of guys just stare at my boobs which has led me to cover them with a pashmina all the time!! And then defining yourself with a certain style to avoid attention for example..WHY?!

    So this is to all women to wear whatever the HECK you want and wearing it with your head held high!!

    http://www.elleisforlove.com

    • 20th June 2017 / 12:29 pm

      Yeah right? I’ve also had countless examples when I felt uncomfortable wearing a shirt that shows a little bit of cleavage because I was terrified of men starring at my boobs. We should rather educate young boys to respect women, rather than covering up all the time.
      Have a fab week babe x

  9. 20th June 2017 / 10:20 am

    I honestly can relate to this post so much. My style has definitely evolved and now I feel confident and comfortable in what I wear but I also think I’ve restrained myself a lot in the past years for the fear of looking a bit slutty sometimes (I haven’t wear a V neck jumper or dress in ageees). You look absolutely GORGEOUS here, keep going wearing more dresses xx

    Caterina | caterinasosso.com

    • 20th June 2017 / 12:27 pm

      Yeah it was the same for me. So stupid tho, a V-neck is anything but slutty. You just go ahead and wear what you feel comfortable in babe x

  10. 21st June 2017 / 10:17 am

    I can totally relate with what you wrote, and that’s the actual reason I collect skirts and dresses in my wardrobe and… never wear them D:

    http://www.dangerouslyme.com/

    • 21st June 2017 / 4:30 pm

      Oh you should definitely start wearing them though if you like them babe x

  11. 23rd June 2017 / 10:43 am

    Girl, I’m going to start off by saying you look absolutely STUNNING! – How gorgeous does that dress look on you?! Love how you’ve styled it too with the Khaki jacket and loafers.. beaut! Secondly I am so with you on this one love, it’s ALL about dressing for yourself and wearing something that feels right to you; also, HELL YES to the power of a good dress – it makes me feel so powerful and sexy, I always think that radiates too when you feel good in something!

    Hayley xo
    http://www.frockmeimfamous.com

    • 23rd June 2017 / 5:38 pm

      Thank you SO SO much babe. Hope you have a fab weekend x

  12. 24th June 2017 / 3:27 pm

    wow ich hab glaube ich noch nie so ein toller kleid gesehen u es steht dir hammer gut :)
    so ein kleid zu tragen – bedeutet eine menge Selbstbewusstsein zu haben – u sich wohl zu fühlen in seinen Körper! Besonders bei uns in graz ist es ja oft so, dass man schon relativ oft angestarrt wird, wenn man sich etwas auffälliger kleidet!
    ich hab mich auch lange nicht wohl gefüllt in meinen körper (fühlte mich immer ein wenig zu dick) jz habe ich aber gelernt mich wohl zufühlen so wie ich bin :) – ich glaube wenn man das geschafft hat ist man erst richtig glücklich
    glg katy

    http://www.lakatyfox.com

    • 25th June 2017 / 4:14 pm

      ja das denke ich auch. man muss sich immer erst selbst mögen um es von anderen auch zu erwarten. bin mir sicher du würdest in dem kleid aber auch super aussehen süße x

  13. 29th June 2017 / 1:05 pm

    Die Tasche passt super zu dem tollen Kleid, allerdings würde ich andere Schuhe dazu empfehlen. Ansonsten toller Look.

    • 30th June 2017 / 2:37 pm

      Danke für dein Feedback.

  14. 30th June 2017 / 2:06 pm

    Hi Kerstin,
    ich finde du siehst so schön aus in dem Kleid und dir sollte es wirklich egal sein, was andere über dich denken könnten! You look damn gorgeous and you know it! Own it! <3

    xxxx

    • 30th June 2017 / 2:37 pm

      Oh vielen lieben Dank Márcia, so lieb von dir.

  15. 3rd July 2017 / 3:54 pm

    Toller Look, das Kleid steht dir fantastisch! Mit solch “Schubladendenken” bin ich auch schon konfrontiert worden, früher, als ich am Land zur Schule ging, war es irgendwie schon auffällig und nicht wirklich akzeptiert, in Rock oder Kleid gekleidet zu sein (außer es war ein Dirndl). Aber ja, ich kann deine Headline nur unterschreiben; man sollte sich niemals von anderen vorschreiben lassen, was man tragen oder nicht tragen kann/darf/wieauchimmer.

    Liebst,
    Liz. http://lizinview.blogspot.co.at/

    • 3rd July 2017 / 6:43 pm

      Vielen lieben Dank für dein grandioses Feedback Liz. Ich wünsche dir eine grandiose Woche! x

  16. 9th August 2017 / 2:13 pm

    Ein wundervoller Post, liebe Kerstin! Ich habe schon auf Instagram und in den Stories bemerkt, dass du dich ein wenig verändert hast und ich liebe deine neue Einstellung, dein neues Bodyimage und dein neues Selbstbewusstsein. Ich bewundere dich dafür. Du hast so recht!!! Wir sollten uns für uns stylen und dass tragen, was wir wollen und worin wir uns gut fühlen. Auch ich will manchmal ein Outfit tragen, dass mir absolut gefällt, aber ich traue mich nicht, weil ich denke.. “was denken denn dann die anderen von mir?” – gerade dann, wenn das Outfit etwas ausgefallener ist und nicht gerade “der Norm” entspricht.. obwohl es sollte keine Norm geben!! Jede/r soll das tragen, was er/sie möchte.. Du gibst mir Mut und ich werde versuchen auch an meiner Einstellung ein wenig zu ändern! :D
    Liebste Grüße, Natascha von sjmb.at ♡

  17. 17th August 2017 / 4:52 pm

    Sehr schone Fotos und schönes Kleid! :D Ich bin verliebt in die tollen Styles.

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