I think you could easily refer to the past few months in my life as some sort of path towards finding my true self. A lot of things changed and I’ve come to terms with me, myself and I, as a unique person, fully independent from everyone but myself. This has ultimately also led to a deeper understanding of my body and a newfound self-confidence that is so inherently different to everything I ever felt before. And that can also be seen in my choice of outfits lately. For example, have I fallen in love with beautiful and feminine dresses – something that would have been unimaginable for me about a year ago.
My Path Towards Genuine Self-Love
If you’ve been following Miss Getaway for quite a while, you might recall a number of different posts dealing with self-love and body confidence. However, only recently have I realized that even though I always claimed to be oh-so-confident, I never really was. Everything I wore and did was somehow rooted in what others expected of me.
For example, did I never wear dresses like this gorgeous number from AboutYou because I was paralyzed with fear of what other people might think about me. Now, to some this might sound utterly stupid because there are women who never experienced the struggle that I had with this particular style of fashion.
Recently, a friend of mine asked me what my favourite piece of clothing was. Without the bat of an eye, I blurted out “dresses” and watched her confusion, as I believe she never even saw me wearing one. The thing is. I love dresses. Always have. I think they look absolutely gorgeous and I always wished to be able to pull them off too.
The Power of a Good Dress
I’ve had a quite a bit of bad experiences with men (and women) in the past when it comes to my body being (over-) sexualized. I’ve had girls make fun of me in high school because I had an ass and boobs. I had strangers call me slutty because I dared to show some cleavage when going out. And I’ve had men reducing me to my body only. And I think that’s why, at some point in growing up, I decided to refrain from wearing feminine clothing and fled into a more sporty and casual style.
I’ve always loved fashion and adored women that could pull of a nice dress. There were lots of instances when I tried on a dress in a shop and would think “damn girl, you look amazing”, but didn’t buy them in order to adhere to that picture of myself that I though I had to convey to others.
Dressing For Myself
It’s my body and I am the one in charge of how to dress it. I feel amazing wearing feminine dresses that enhance my curves. I love pairing them with old-fashioned pieces like these slippers from Aldo and dress them either up for the night or down for the day. And I think that is key.
Fashion should be fun and not feel restrictive.
And while we’re at it. Can we just take a moment to appreciate how bloody gorgeous these pictures turned out. When I was looking through them I honestly couldn’t believe that’s actually me. Love this dress – love those pictures!
WHAT I’M WEARING:
Have you had a similar experience before? What do you think about judging other people by what they are wearing? And what do you think about my new favourite look?
** Pictures by the incredibly talented Lisa from MyCafeAuLait