She looked at me in disbelieve. “You can’t possibly mean that”, she started. “There are literally hundreds of people telling you that you look good on a daily basis. They comment, they like and they share what you post. Have you checked your last Insta-Selfie? There were about 30 comments of strangers telling you that you’re pretty. So why the hell do you act like you have no body confidence whatsoever?”. Her remark left me speechless. Sure. That is true. I do have a more or less huge following on Social Media and plenty of people do comment on my pictures that I’m pretty.
However, that never really changed my perception of self. I’ve been body-conscious for almost my entire life. I’ve never really liked my body. Felt too thick, too bland, too mediocre. I have always envied those girls that are so effortlessly beautiful that it just takes your breath away. Those girls that wake up and instantly look gorgeous. The women in magazines and TV shows. During my teenage years, I was often called fat. People told me I’d look better if I’d only lose 5 pounds. My calves were too big. My hips too wide. You name it. I simply didn’t look like the ideal woman shown on TV. And didn’t we all want to look like Serena Van der Woodsen at that time?
Only later did I realize that these women, my role models, aren’t real. No one really looks like the girl on the magazine cover. It took me about 20 years to realize that, though. What immensely helped me with my body confidence was blogging. Ever since I started this blog I pushed myself to get out of my comfort zone more and more. I started off by only showing still life on my Instagram pictures but gradually switched to a more me-centred feed. And it helped me – a lot! I started feeling much more confident about what I look like and what makes me special. Apart from starting a blog, there are other things you can do to work on your body-confidence though.
Blogging & Body Confidence: What YOU can do
- STEP OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE: The most important thing you can do to grow as a person and start loving yourself more is stepping out of your comfort zone. Be it little things or big steps, everything helps.
- EMBRACE YOUR WEIRD: Why do we always want to be like everyone else when we’re all special and unique? Rather than working towards a non-recognizable you, start embracing your weird and celebrate anything that makes YOU special.
- BE CREATIVE: And search for an outlet to express yourself. You can do that through blogging, yes. But also through sports, arts or anything else that makes you happy.
- ME-TIME: There’s nothing more important than getting to know yourself. You got to know what you like, what your body looks like and WHO exactly you are. I think we way too often focus on what others think of us but what about what WE think of ourselves.
- EDUCATE YOURSELF: Once you start educating yourself you’ll realize you won’t so easily be fooled anymore. No more getting tricked into thinking you have to look like the models on TV. Remember this: the right pose and right light can make such a difference to what your body looks like on a picture. Just saying!
SHOP THE LOOK:
- Coat: Zara (similar)
- Cardigan: H&M (similar)
- Dress: H&M
- Bralette: Intimissimi
- Bag: Mango
- Tights: H&M
- Shoes: No name, old (similar)
I worked on this post in collaboration with my lovely blogger friend Kat from Seven&Stories. You can find her story and another five tips and tricks for more body confidence over on her blog if you fancy reading more in German. Her story is utterly heartbreaking and makes her as unique and beautiful as all of you out there. Happy Sunday!